This picture makes me sad. So incredibly sad.
This weekend was my fifth wedding anniversary. My husband and I had planned an evening out, which entailed a dinner at a restaurant we wouldn’t normally go to and our son being at my aunt’s for the night. I had been looking forward to this night for a long time; my husband works six days a week and it’s rare that we go out like this when he doesn’t have to go to work the next day. When we had a child-free night, we really meant that we had one. Our son was not a topic of conversation, most parents fall into that trap easily. Don’t get me wrong, my little man is amazing and wonderful and I love him so much…but I can’t talk about him constantly, not even with my husband. We talked about a plethora of things – we joked around, we laughed a lot, we held hands, we shared our food. My husband joked about the chandelier and how it would look perfect in our bedroom (note – this chandelier was probably bigger than my entire bedroom and living room combined). We truly enjoyed each other’s company.
As I was looking around at the decor of the restaurant, I couldn’t help but notice a couple two tables over from us. The girl could not give her man the time of day, whatever was on her phone had to be much more exciting than the guy she was with. I looked back at my husband and said, ‘Thank goodness that isn’t us.’ We have a rule when we’re out to dinner, our phones stay out of sight. I also do this with my best friend, when she and I are out to dinner…we talk to each other, what’s on our phones is the least of our concern and worry. We truly enjoy each other’s company. Why don’t people enjoy each other’s company anymore? Why are people so caught up in what’s on their phones rather than what’s right there in front of them?
During our night out, my phone came out to take some pictures (not of our meal). I didn’t post the vast majority of them to social media until the next day. I don’t feel the imminent need to post up something to Instagram, Twitter or Facebook as it happens. I like to enjoy the moments that I spend with people instead of hurry and rush to come up with a clever caption and hashtag to go with it. Only one was posted up, and I kinda felt like a jerk for doing so…because it could wait. When was the last time you truly enjoyed time with people where you didn’t have the need to reach for your phone – whether it be to check email, texts or social media and to post whatever picture you just took? My husband knows it’s bothers me, in fact it really burns me up. There was a group of four people at the table next to us that could not stop reading Facebook…to each other. I know what Michelle did at her bridal shower, guys. I don’t know her, but I know she got a special recipe book from her cousin.
Someone please help me out on this – what is the fascination of this? Are you afraid you’re going to miss something? Let’s face it, there are a lot of us that lived in a time without cell phones. In high school, texting was in the form of a handwritten note passed between class periods. If we needed to call someone and we were out, we used a payphone. If we were out with friends, we were talking to each other. To me, there is nothing quite like spending time with people you care for and actually SPENDING time with them. Giving them your attention, engaging with one another. Now give yourself a project, give yourself a test. Next time you’re out, keep your phone in your purse/pocket…see how long you can go without taking it out to check something. It’s okay to disconnect, it’s okay to miss statuses, posts and tweets. I don’t know when it became not okay to do, but it’s one of those things that truly bothers me about living in a digital world.